The work we do is challenging and sometimes it is easy to succumb to feelings of doubt, thinking that all our hard work is in vain. However, there are examples that highlight the difference we make. One such example is one of our Health Coaches, Vero’s, most challenging patients.
She is a 23 year old patient. When she came to us it was clear that she was suffering. She has type 1 diabetes, difficult enough for a young adult to handle yet she also suffers from ulcerative colitis. After an extended hospital stay and major bowel surgery, she was left with an ostomy, a difficult situation for anyone and particularly debilitating for a 23 year old.
Her surgeon told her she would have to get her sugars under controlled before they would reverse the ostomy. Dealing with an ostomy bag was not only a hindrance on her social life, it limited her job opportunities.
Not surprisingly, she also suffered from major depression which became a compounding factor in managing her multiple medical problems. She tried talk therapy but never really felt comfortable opening up. Antidepressants didn’t make a dent. She was mired in despair and despite our efforts to engage her in managing her blood sugars, Vero’s texts often went unanswered. We knew she would spend days in her room, crying and isolating herself. She would frequently break down while at work. We begged her to come in to talk to us.
Finally, one day without prompting, she did. We could tell she was on the edge and didn’t know where to turn. She had decided to put her trust in us as a last resort. She opened up to us and all her emotional and physical traumas began to trickle out. It was a very emotional meeting and it was only the beginning. We offered more therapy from a professional, but she really just wanted to talk to her Health Coach. We decided that coffee with Vero every other week would be a start. She left that meeting only a step back from the edge but she was moving in the right direction.
And then, Vero received a gift of beautiful flowers.
The note reads:
I HONESTLY WANT TO THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU HAVE DONE FOR ME EVEN THOUGH I AM A PAIN IN THE BUTT I’M SO GRATEFUL THAT YOU HAVEN’T GIVEN UP ON ME YOU TRULY ARE A GODSEND
Over the past couple of months Vero’s coffee meetings have been a huge success. She has shared some of her deepest secrets that have clearly been weighing her down and blocking her from moving forward. She has felt comfortable enough to establish care with Nina, our social worker, so she can get the trained help she needs in dealing with her significant past traumas. From a medical standpoint we are still working on her sugars with the goal of reversing her ostomy. She is by no means a picture of health, but we are taking baby steps, in the right direction.
This patient has been a huge reminder to me that despite the monumental task we have in front of us, we do make a difference in people’s lives, everyday. Because of the unconventional resources we have to help us connect with our patients, we are able to continue to find creative ways to make breakthroughs and put our most challenging patients on the track to leading healthier and more fulfilling lives. I know that there are times we feel like no matter how much we try to help our most challenging patients, that they can’t or won’t change. It is so wonderful to be reminded that by showing our patients that we truly care about them and that we won’t give up on them, our positive attitude can have an impact. Great job Vero!